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<p><span style="font-size: 13.5pt; color: maroon">A chat with Dr.Devi Shetty<span id="more-78"></span> Narayana Hrudayalaya<br />
(Heart Specialist) Bangalore  India, was arranged by WIPRO for its employees .<br />
The transcript of the chat :</span></p>
<p></span><span style="font-size: 13.5pt; color: maroon"></span><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: What are the thumb rules for a layman to take care of his heart?</span></span></span><span style="color: black"> </span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black">Ans:<br />
1. Diet &#8211; Less of carbohydrate, more of protein, less oil<br />
2. Exercise &#8211; Half an hour&#8217;s walk, at least five days a week; avoid lifts and avoid sitting for a longtime<br />
3. Quit smoking<br />
4. Control weight<br />
5. Control blood pressure and sugar</span></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: Is eating non-veg food (fish) good for the heart?<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans: No</span></span></p>
<p></span><span style="color: navy">Qn: It&#8217;s still a grave shock to hear that some apparently healthy person<br />
</span><span style="color: black">gets a cardiac arrest. How do we understand it in perspective?</span></p>
<p><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black">Ans: This is called silent attack; that is why we recommend everyone past the age of 30 to undergo routine health checkups.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: Are heart diseases hereditary?<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans: Yes</span></span><span style="color: black"> </span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: What are the ways in which the heart is stressed? What practices do you suggest to de-stress?<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans: Change your attitude towards life. Do not look for perfection in everything in life.</span></span></p>
<p></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black"></span></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: Is walking better than jogging or is more intensive exercise required to keep a healthy heart?<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans: Walking is better than jogging since jogging leads to early fatigue and injury to joints</span></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: You have done so much for the poor and needy. What has inspired you to do so?</span></span><span style="color: black"> </span></p>
<p></span><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black">Ans: Mother Theresa , who was my patient</span></span><span style="color: black"> </span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: Can people with low blood pressure suffer heart diseases?<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans: Extremely rare</span></span></p>
<p></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black"></span></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: Does cholesterol accumulates right from an early age<br />
(I&#8217;m currently only 22) or do you have to worry about it only after you are above 30 years of age?<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans: Cholesterol accumulates from childhood.</span></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: How do irregular eating habits affect the heart ?<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans: You tend to eat junk food when the habits are irregular and your body&#8217;s enzyme release for digestion gets confused.</span></span><span style="color: black"> </span></p>
<p></span><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: How can I control cholesterol content without using medicines?<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans: Control diet, walk and eat walnut.</span></span><span style="color: black"> </span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: Can yoga prevent heart ailments?<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans: Yoga helps.</span></span></p>
<p></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black"></span></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: Which is the best and worst food for the heart?<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans: Fruits and vegetables are the best and the worst is oil.</span></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: Which oil is better &#8211; groundnut, sunflower, olive?<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans: All oils are bad .</span></span><span style="color: black"> </span></p>
<p></span><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: What is the routine checkup one should go through? Is there any specific test?<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans: Routine blood test to ensure sugar, cholesterol is ok. Check BP, Treadmill test after an echo.</span></span><span style="color: black"> </span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: What are the first aid steps to be taken on a heart attack?</span></span></p>
<p></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy"></span></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black">Ans: Help the person into a sleeping position , place an aspirin tablet under the tongue with a sorbitrate tablet if available, and rush him to a coronary care unit since the maximum casualty takes place within the first hour.</span></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: How do you differentiate between pain caused by a heart attack and that caused due to gastric trouble?<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans: Extremely difficult without ECG.</span></span></p>
<p></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black"></span></span><span style="color: black"> </span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: What is the main cause of a steep increase in heart problems amongst youngsters? I see people of about 30-40 yrs of age having heart attacks and serious heart problems.<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans: Increased awareness has increased incidents. Also, s edentary lifestyles, smoking, junk food, lack of exercise in a country where people are genetically three times more vulnerable for heart attacks than Europeans and Americans.</span></span><span style="color: black"> </span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: Is it possible for a person to have BP outside the normal range of 120/80 and yet be perfectly healthy?<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans: Yes.</span></span></p>
<p></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black"></span></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: Marriages within close relatives can lead to heart problems for the child. Is it true?<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans : Yes, co-sanguinity leads to congenital abnormalities and you may not have a software engineer as a child.</span></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: Many of us have an irregular daily routine and many a times we have to stay late nights in office. Does this affect our heart ? What precautions would you recommend?<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans : When you are young, nature protects you against all these irregularities. However, as you grow older, respect the biological clock.</span></span><span style="color: black"> </span></p>
<p></span><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: Will taking anti-hypertensive drugs cause some other complications (short / long term)?<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans : Yes, most drugs have some side effects. However, modern anti-hypertensive drugs are extremely safe.</span></span><span style="color: black"> </span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: Will consuming more coffee/tea lead to heart attacks?</span></span></p>
<p></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy"></span></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black">Ans : No.</span></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: Are asthma patients more prone to heart disease?<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans : No.</span></span><span style="color: black"> </span></p>
<p></span><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: How would you define junk food?<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans : Fried food like Kentucky , McDonalds , samosas, and even masala dosas.</span></span><span style="color: black"> </span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: You mentioned that Indians are three times more vulnerable. What is the reason for this, as Europeans and Americans also eat a lot of junk food?<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans: Every race is vulnerable to some disease and unfortunately, Indians are vulnerable for the most expensive disease.</span></span></p>
<p></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black"></span></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: Does consuming bananas help reduce hypertension?<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans : No.</span></span></p>
<p><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: Can a person help himself during a heart attack (Because we see a lot of forwarded emails on this)?<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans : Yes. Lie down comfortably and put an aspirin tablet of any description under the tongue and ask someone to take you to the nearest coronary care unit without any delay and do not wait for the ambulance since most of the time, the ambulance does not turn up.</span></span><span style="color: black"> </span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: Do, in any way, low white blood cells and low hemoglobin count lead to heart problems?<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans : No. But it is ideal to have normal hemoglobin level to increase your exercise capacity.</span></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: Sometimes, due to the hectic schedule we are not able to exercise. So, does walking while doing daily chores at home or climbing the stairs in the house, work as a substitute for exercise?</span></span></p>
<p></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy"></span></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black">Ans : Certainly. Avoid sitting continuously for more than half an hour and even the act of getting out of the chair and going to another chair and sitting helps a lot.</span></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: Is there a relation between heart problems and blood sugar?<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans: Yes. A strong relationship since diabetics are more vulnerable to heart attacks than non-diabetics.</span></span></p>
<p></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black"></span></span><span style="color: black"> </span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: What are the things one needs to take care of after a heart operation?<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans : Diet, exercise, drugs on time , Control cholesterol, BP, weight.</span></span><span style="color: black"> </span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: Are people working on night shifts more vulnerable to heart disease when compared to day shift workers?<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans : No.</span></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: What are the modern anti-hypertensive drugs?<br />
</span><span style="color: black"><br />
Ans : There are hundreds of drugs and your doctor will chose the right combination for your problem, but my suggestion is to avoid the drugs and go for natural ways of controlling blood pressure by walk, diet to<br />
reduce weight and changing attitudes towards lifestyles.</span><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: Does dispirin or similar headache pills increase the risk of heart attacks?</span></span><span style="color: black"> </span></p>
<p></span></p>
<p></span><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: black">Ans : No.</span></span><span style="color: black"> </span></p>
<p><span style="color: black"></span><span style="color: black"><span style="color: navy">Qn: Why is the rate of heart attacks more in men than in women?<br />
</span><span style="color: black">Ans : Nature protects women till the age of 45. (Present Global census show that the Percentage of heart disease in women has increased than in men )</span></span></p>
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				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://images.google.co.in/imgres?imgurl=http://www.coachminx.com/images/cartoon.jpg&amp;imgrefurl=http://www.coachminx.com/articles/index.html&amp;h=288&amp;w=240&amp;sz=33&amp;hl=en&amp;start=4&amp;um=1&amp;tbnid=Yem_kQZ5jl5XXM:&amp;tbnh=115&amp;tbnw=96&amp;prev=/images%3Fq%3DEnjoyment%2Bskills%2Bcartoon%26um%3D1%26hl%3Den"></a><a href="http://images.google.co.in/imgres?imgurl=http://images.inmagine.com/img/imagezoo/iz116/iz116005.jpg&amp;imgrefurl=http://gb.inmagine.com/iz116/iz116005-photo&amp;h=400&amp;w=400&amp;sz=33&amp;hl=en&amp;start=20&amp;um=1&amp;tbnid=bpXoCxb_M0SiJM:&amp;tbnh=124&amp;tbnw=124&amp;prev=/images%3Fq%3DEnjoyment%2B%2Bcartoon%26um%3D1%26hl%3Den"><img width="124" src="http://tbn0.google.com/images?q=tbn:bpXoCxb_M0SiJM:http://images.inmagine.com/img/imagezoo/iz116/iz116005.jpg" height="124" style="width: 128px; height: 130px; border: 1px solid" /></a><a href="http://images.google.co.in/imgres?imgurl=http://www.teafolks.com/files/1944043/uploaded/j0411799.jpg&amp;imgrefurl=http://www.teafolks.com/&amp;h=1024&amp;w=1024&amp;sz=129&amp;hl=en&amp;start=28&amp;um=1&amp;tbnid=hUZjkhl3apCUMM:&amp;tbnh=150&amp;tbnw=150&amp;prev=/images%3Fq%3DEnjoyment%2B%2B%26start%3D20%26ndsp%3D20%26um%3D1%26hl%3Den%26sa%3DN"><img width="150" src="http://tbn0.google.com/images?q=tbn:hUZjkhl3apCUMM:http://www.teafolks.com/files/1944043/uploaded/j0411799.jpg" height="150" style="width: 128px; height: 129px; border: 1px solid" /></a><a href="http://images.google.co.in/imgres?imgurl=http://www.coachminx.com/images/cartoon.jpg&amp;imgrefurl=http://www.coachminx.com/articles/index.html&amp;h=288&amp;w=240&amp;sz=33&amp;hl=en&amp;start=4&amp;um=1&amp;tbnid=Yem_kQZ5jl5XXM:&amp;tbnh=115&amp;tbnw=96&amp;prev=/images%3Fq%3DEnjoyment%2Bskills%2Bcartoon%26um%3D1%26hl%3Den"><img width="96" src="http://tbn0.google.com/images?q=tbn:Yem_kQZ5jl5XXM:http://www.coachminx.com/images/cartoon.jpg" height="115" style="width: 116px; height: 130px; border: 1px solid" /></a><!----></p>
<p>Are you the<a href="http://images.google.co.in/imgres?imgurl=http://www.coachminx.com/images/cartoon.jpg&amp;imgrefurl=http://www.coachminx.com/articles/index.html&amp;h=288&amp;w=240&amp;sz=33&amp;hl=en&amp;start=4&amp;um=1&amp;tbnid=Yem_kQZ5jl5XXM:&amp;tbnh=115&amp;tbnw=96&amp;prev=/images%3Fq%3DEnjoyment%2Bskills%2Bcartoon%26um%3D1%26hl%3Den"></a> happiest person you know? Not necessarily the luckiest, richest, or most successful, just the happiest?<br />
<span style="text-justify: newspaper; text-align: justify"><!---->   <!---->If not, why not?<span id="more-48"></span> Most people will reel off their current worries — the job, the kids, the car, the price of fish. I don’t mean to sweep these aside: problems need to be solved, if you can, or waited out until they disappear. But as far as living happily is concerned you have to face a crucial fact. If you can only live happily after all your problems are solved, you are never going to live happily, because when today’s problems are gone and forgotten, others will take their place. So either living happily is just impossible, or you have to do it in spite of your problems. </span><br />
<span style="text-justify: newspaper; text-align: justify"><!---->   <!---->Being happy depends not so much on external circumstances as on your inner life. This means all your thoughts, perceptions, beliefs, emotions, desires, dreams — your entire mental and emotional scene. Happiness is about how you react inwardly to events, what you think and believe, how you feel, how problems affect you. It may sound obvious, but like many obvious things it’s something that is often forgotten when it matters most. We focus almost exclusively on our external lives, on getting and spending and having fun, and then wonder why we are not happy. But it’s when our inner lives are tranquil that we are happiest and we call this inner peace. </span><br />
<span style="text-justify: newspaper; text-align: justify"><!---->   <!---->So how is inner peace to be achieved? Is it a question of religion, perhaps, or yoga? These can certainly help but only if they have a positive effect on your inner life. The difficulty is that inner life is based on patterns and habits — some you were born with, most you have acquired. You don’t choose, occasion by occasion, how you respond inside when something happens. This happens and you feel angry; that happens you feel sad; you pass the patisserie and you feel hungry; you hear a tune or smell a certain scent and it reminds you of a particular time or person? Things produce a response without you thinking about it or choosing how you feel, and they don’t necessarily leave you with inner peace. So the trick is to break the pattern. You can’t completely avoid problems, but you can change how you react to them by acquiring new </span><span style="text-justify: newspaper; text-align: justify" id="Ar0270004">habits that provoke peaceful inner responses. Training your inner life into different habits requires learning skills of thinking, feeling, and managing your beliefs and desires. These are very like the virtues many religions and philosophies advocate, but if you think of them as skills rather than virtues, you benefit from an important and liberating shift. Instead of “I must become a better person” you can think “I would live more happily if i worked on my </span><span style="text-justify: newspaper; text-align: justify" id="Ar0270005">skills”, so the change in attitude becomes a choice, not a duty. And to </span><span style="text-justify: newspaper; text-align: justify" id="Ar0270006">these remedial skills i’ve added an extra set of enjoyment skills, otherwise getting happier could turn out a very depressing affair. </span><br />
<span style="text-justify: newspaper; text-align: justify"><!---->   <!---->This process is not something you can do overnight, it’s a whole new way of life, but the reward is what we all want most — happiness. There are five main skills you need to cultivate. </span><br />
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Mindfulness:</strong></span><span style="text-justify: newspaper; text-align: justify"><strong style="font-size: 16px; color: black; font-family: Times New Roman">Borrowed from Buddhism, this involves developing your ability to focus your thoughts in the <span style="text-justify: newspaper; text-align: justify" id="Ar0270007">present. The problem most of us have with thought is having too much of it — the worrying and nonstop mental chattering our minds are prone to. Mindfulness is a key inner skill because, as it gets stronger, it lets you focus on your own inner life and catch your habits in the act. Once you can see how you are ruled by them, the change you are seeking often happens of its own accord. </span><br />
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Compassion:</strong>Most religions rightly stress compassion. As well as </span></p>
<p></strong></span><span style="text-justify: newspaper; text-align: justify" id="Ar0270008">being a virtue in its own right it is a practical skill that counteracts nega</span><span style="text-justify: newspaper; text-align: justify" id="Ar0270009">tive emotions like anger and hatred, which are terrible wreckers of happiness. Try it the next time someone annoys you: put yourself in their place and ask yourself what they might they be thinking or feeling to behave like that. Even bad people, let alone people who just mildly annoy you, often have a warped or mistaken view of the world which makes them do what they do. Wars are started and atrocities committed, for example, because someone decides </span><span style="text-justify: newspaper; text-align: justify" id="Ar0270010">that this is what their God wants. It doesn’t mean they should get away with their actions, in fact it may be necessary to take strong action to defend yourself. </span><br />
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Story skills:</strong></span><span style="text-justify: newspaper; text-align: justify"><strong style="font-size: 16px; color: black; font-family: Times New Roman">These are very useful for problems with your inner belief system, as they let you stand back and explore alternative versions of reality. Beliefs have great power over your life because a belief is something you take as fact. Start to think of your beliefs as stories, and it is easier to accept that other things might be true as well, or even instead. Even true stories only select the little bit of reality we are focusing on at the moment: no one story is the whole truth about any situation. From a different point of view we would see a different story, sometimes a whole different world. This is not about make believe, it’s about reframing situations to look at them from a different perspective.<br />
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Letting-go techniques:</strong>These are particularly helpful when we are unhappy not getting what we want. Generally, we are encouraged to keep wanting and to think that more will make us happier, whether it’s clothes or cars or even love. But wanting is a treadmill: as long as you have unsatisfied wants and desires you won’t be at peace, so to be happy you either have to satisfy all your desires, or let go of some of them. Letting-go skills also include forgiveness, which helps hugely if one of the things you think you want is revenge. </span></p>
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Enjoyment skills:</strong></span><span style="text-justify: newspaper; text-align: justify"><strong style="font-size: 16px; color: black; font-family: Times New Roman">This last group includes skills such as patience, humour and, especially, gratitude. You don’t have to be grateful to someone, it’s enough to cultivate gratitude for things. Our minds naturally scan the environment for dangers and resources, a useful mechanism when we were hunter-gatherers. But it can make us unnecessarily pessimistic — focusing on the 10% we lack rather than the 90% we have. Cultivating enjoyment skills will help redress the balance.<br />
<span style="text-justify: newspaper; text-align: justify"><!---->   <!---->Acquiring all these skills takes time and effort. The important thing is to practise them until they operate without you thinking about them. Your practice routine will be very individual, because everyone needs to prioritise different skills depending on the specific issues that are holding them back from being happy, but keep the skills in mind and you will constantly find new ways to try them out. </span><br style="font-weight: normal; font-size: 5px; line-height: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal" /></p>
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<p class="HTMLImage"> by : Tony Wilkinson</p>
<p class="HTMLImage">source : times life</p>
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